Dear TJ,
A few weeks ago your Show and Tell was actually just a Tell. You had to tell your class who your hero is, and you chose me. I tried to explain to you that a hero is someone who has overcome something great or been an example to you in some way. I didn't feel that what I do for you every day makes me a hero, but you kept saying that I was your hero because I check on you every night. I keep you safe.
When you said that for the third time, suddenly I understood! The world can be a big, scary, uncertain place, but you always feel safe and comfortable and loved when you are with me. You have total faith that our home is a safe place. You can fully enjoy your childhood.
You know what Buddy? I do make it one of my top priorities to keep you safe. I never let you cross a busy road alone, or play out front without supervision, or eat more candy than I know that you should. I make sure you are buckled whenever we drive somewhere, and that you get your immunizations, and that you stay by me at the store. I do check on you every night to be sure that you are covered and that your head is on your pillow, not under it.
All of these things are not unusual. I believe all moms should do them for their children, but being a hero doesn't mean you are different from anyone else. It means that you make a difference to someone, and what I do to keep you safe is everything to you.
After my quick epiphany I concurred that you had chosen a good hero and we wrote out what you would say at Show and Tell. You added as another reason I'm your hero is that I keep plan fun things that make you happy. I do love to plan outings big and small for you guys. I love seeing you explore and learn and love this beautiful world. There is so much out there to see and experience and sharing it with you makes both of us happy! As I finished writing up the little assignment I thought to myself, "I would choose someone who made me feel safe and happy as my hero too."
We placed the paper on the mantle so that we wouldn't forget it in 3 days. When Friday came guess what happened? We forgot to put the paper in your bag and you were not allowed to share who your hero is! You were disappointed and I'm sorry for that. I'm very glad that we still took the time to fill out your paper though because what I learned that night made me appreciate being a mother even more.
Sadly not every mom out there is a hero and it breaks my heart each time I read one of those stories in the news. That is not the way Heavenly Father intended it to be. He wants each Mom to be a hero to her kids. He trusted his beloved spirits to come to earth as vulnerable babies and children because he knew a mother's love would keep them safe as they grew. Each mother's individual love means everything to her child. What an amazing privilege it is for me to be a hero to 4 little people. I believe it's the most important thing I will do in this life. Thanks for helping me see this TJ.
I sure love you,
Mom